Hi, as I understand you read my blog and know what my job is. So I would like to ask you as a man, about the things that give a man the biggest pleasure. I mean…I know how to give pleasure to a man…But maybe you could widen my horizons and tell me some tricks I don’t know to improve myself in it…so, blowjob – ok, anal sex – ok…maybe there can be some special techniques in blowing or touching a penis? Waiting for your recommendations, thank you, X…
Answer: Hello, thank you for your query on a very important subject *wink* Pleasuring a man can often be overlooked and understated. Yes, us Men have most of our erogenous zones in our genitalia but it does not mean that all you have to do is get us hard, give it a constant tug and suck. Although we love sex, especially blow jobs, there is a difference from just getting head to getting amazing fellatio.
Now, I must stress that each Man has his own preferences and tastes when it comes to pleasure so I’ll try to cover more than one scenario. Personally, orgasms for me reach the next level when the head of my penis receives most attention. For the record, I am circumcised which can make a huge difference. For those Men who are uncut, the head of the penis will be a lot more sensitive.
For those of us who are cut, the head is probably 80% of the pleasure zone, think of it as our version of the clitoris. Pleasure it too much and it can get too sensitive for us to climax, not giving it enough attention will mean we’re not going to end soon.
My partner has it down to a fine art. She probably spends 5 to 20 minutes on foreplay, kissing on the lips, on the neck, down the nipples and eventually towards my crotch. The testicles can be a pleasure zone, but be aware that they can be extremely sensitive. Too much attention can actually make me lose my erection.
Teasing the Penis is important. I like it when my partner strokes the frenulum (banjo string) near the head of penis with her tongue. It’s important to use your hand too. Usually the job is separated into two sections. When pleasured by her mouth becomes overly sensitive, she stops and switches to using her hand which gives a different sensation.
The handjob is massively important here for those Men who are uncut to those who are. I’ve had many occasions where a Woman has started wanking my erect penis from the base or halfway. This works better for Uncircumcised Men, as the extra skin means that the main pleasure points towards to top half of the penis are being hit.
For those of us who are circumcised, you should invest in some Lubricant. Preferably a flavoured lube, because it’ll make giving head more enjoyable for you and in return more enjoyable for us. If you have a guy who is circumcised and want to give him a great handjob, use the lube and make sure your hand goes from the bottom all the way to the tip, without pulling the skin. It’s the opposite for the natural guys.
What usually has my penis exploding is when my partner is sucking the head whilst also giving the rest of the penis a hand job. I’m getting hard thinking about it now.
Alternatively, I have a friend of mine who enjoys it when his wife slips a finger into his anus. Now more common knowledge, you will probably know that the Male G-Spot is located here but you should always communicate with your Man about doing this before attempting it. You may be surprised how many straight Men actually like this.
Overall, I also stress that the best thing a Woman can do to make sure she’s giving the Man the most amazing time of his life, is to enjoy it. We do get off on the fact you are enjoying it too, maybe it is because we’re very ego driven but it won’t help massaging our ego here more than any other time.
So, compliment us on our penis, the length or the girth or the shape. Make sure that when you give head, it’s a passion of yours. If you look like you are looking at the clock, we can tell. It can put us off.
Hope this information helps, if you want me to elaborate on anything, feel free to comment.
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